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Why Did You Ask for Her Hand in Marriage If You Were a Cheater?

This whole cheating phenomenon has me utterly perplexed…for real. Trying to figure out the psychology behind it all has my brain working too hard – just kidding! All I’m saying is that it’s not like anybody held a gun to these peoples’ heads and forced them to walk down that aisle and seal the deal - planting what’s supposed a long-term convenant between two individuals: one that usually excludes infidelity. They could have chosen a different path by not getting married and shacking up with whoever, whenever and whereever. After all, marriage isn’t for everybody.

I’ve always thought of a cheater as someone who seeks power – at all costs. The power of making sure both or multiple cheating operations are working inconspicuously at all times. The power of knowing that the person who’s being cheated on has no knowledge of what’s happening behind their backs and thus, makes them feel that they are slick and sly, in essence - clever enough to carry out such an endeavour.

Then I think it’s because the cheater loves the idea of having a thing on the side who doesn’t bring the extra baggage that having a spouse does (i.e. bills, children, household duties, etc.). In some cases, I think people who have attained a certain level of power/ status, take Tiger Woods for example - feel they are entitled to everything their hearts desire, thinking that they will not be caught after having committed wrongs and being exempt from punishment as well. Now, I’m no psychologist but, I think cheaters are lacking something from within; whether that be self-confidence or self-love – there’s definitely something missing in terms of their relationships with themselves.